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STEP ONE: TRUTH
Truth 1.0—It's the Real Thing
1. Truth is not subject to human judgement, but it’s about _______________ perspective.
2. “We may have to admit we have been wrong at times in the way we’ve viewed the world.”
Is it possible you have done this? Circle below if you have made faulty assumptions about:
c. life in general
e. all of the the above
Describe a time when you may have drawn negative conclusions about God because of events or circumstances in your life.
3. “Many people lie to themselves about their experiences in life and in their relationships in order to survive.”
Why do people lie to themselves?
Have you lied to yourself about your experiences or relationships? If so, tell about it.
Did it help you survive?—If so, how?
4. Debbie says, “You cannot create your own Truth.” In your own words, what does this mean?
5. Define COURAGE.
Has there been a time in your life when you were COURAGEOUS—when you did what you needed to do, even when afraid? What about when you were not courageous?
I was courageous when I __________________________________________.
I was not courageous when I _______________________________________.
6. The word DYSFUNCTIONAL means to function in an inhibited manner, in a ____________ kind of way.
Name one way your life been DYSFUNCTIONAL.
7. Describe your two bodies of evidence.
My FAITH—What I believe, my expectations, how things SHOULD be:
My EXPERIENCE—What actually happened/is happening:
8. “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”—Maya Angelo
What is the difference between allowing someone to SHOW you who they are vs TELLING you who they are?
Describe one time in your life when you have allowed people to TELL you who they are:
Looking at your answers above, can you admit that you LIED TO YOURSELF in certain relationships? Why did you want to believe that someone was who you wanted them to be?
What might happen when you start believing that people are who they SHOW YOU they are?
WORST THING THAT MIGHT HAPPEN: _________________
BEST THING THAT MIGHT HAPPEN: _________________
9. “I had borne the responsibility of the behavior of others, thinking I was acting in love. But I had it all backward. We can never be responsible for the behavior of others, only for ourselves.”
When have you taken responsibility for others? Explain.
Have you ever blamed someone else for your own failures? If so, when?
10. “The failure of my life was no longer about the controllers; it was about me. I, and I alone, was responsible for my mess.”
Why must change begin with YOU?
What would happen if you change your circumstances but did not change YOU first?
What might happen if you make changes in YOU before changing your circumstances?
11. Many times your circumstances will offer hardcore evidence that is contrary to your faith, but it is important that you do not deny either your faith or your experience. TRUE or FALSE
12. “How could I face the fact that I could never recapture those lost years? What was I to do with my life? What now?”
What INVESTMENTS (time, energy, caring, emotions, relationships, etc) have you made in your past that did not produce a harvest (did not work)? List them below:
Explain how you can LET GO OF THAT PART OF YOUR PAST so you can move on.
BONUS QUESTION: Look again at your answer to #12, about wasted investments. Can you see a WAY OF THINKING you were using during that time, that may have actually been broken thought processes at work?
Truth 2.0—Truth and Lies
1. The nature of God is at the core of Truth. TRUE/FALSE
2. What is SPIRITUAL LAW?
When is Spiritual Law applicable?
When does Spiritual Law change?
3. Complete this list of Spiritual Laws #1-8:
Spiritual Law #1: God’s Word is ________________. He will not go back on His Word.
Spiritual Law #2: The Kingdom of God is ____________________.
Spiritual Law #3: Every person is created as a free moral agent with the power of _____.
Spiritual Law #4: God is ________________.
Spiritual Law #5: God is ________________.
Spiritual Law #6: God is ________________.
Spiritual Law #7: God is ________________.
Spiritual Law #8: God is ________________.
4. The nature of God is about who God is—It has nothing to do with who we are, and it has nothing to do with our behavior. TRUE/FALSE
Write out 2 Timothy 2:13:
When have you been “faithless?” What did the Lord do? Did it change God any at all? Explain.
5. When is the devil a liar? _________ ______ ___________.
6. In the Bible, Satan is described as a:
f. all the above
7. “The enemy has one single weapon he consistently and relentlessly and mercilessly uses against mankind. Satan’s number one, all-time most used weapon against humanity is deception.”
What is deception, and why is it so dangerous?
8. A lie is not always obvious. It may not look like a lie. It certainly isn’t going to come packaged with the word “deception” stamped on it. TRUE or FALSE
9. See the list of statements below. Circle the ones you have said (if only to yourself), and add additional ones that are not on the list.
a. God is punishing me. He’s making me pay.
b. God is mad at me.
c. God thinks I’m a terrible person.
d. God wants me to suffer.
e. God doesn’t love me as much as He loves other people.
f. I have disappointed God.
g. God has something against me.
In the list above, concerning the statements you have believed, can you now explain why those statements are not true? Are they what God would say? Do they agree with Spiritual Law?
10. When you are trying to discern between a truth and a lie, one simple test is to ask yourself, _________________________________________________________?
11. When seeking to recognize God’s voice, there are three things we should do:
12. “The enemy will attempt to get people to confuse his own voice with the voice of God. Quite often he’ll even provide some bits and pieces of scripture to back it up!”
Which of the statements below fit this description?
a. I must not be a good Christian because I failed at something really important. The Bible says we can do all things through Christ.
b. The Word says born-again believers are “new creatures” in Christ. So if I was really saved, I wouldn’t struggle with the same old sins over and over again.
c. I have repented of my sin, but I think God is punishing me for it anyway, because I had to pay a fine. That makes sense because the Bible says God disciplines those He loves.
d. I struggle with sin, just like everyone else. But the Bible says there is no condemnation in Christ, and it also says the mercies of God a new every morning. God will give me another chance!
BONUS QUESTION: Think about one time when you were deceived. Tell about it. What happened?
Truth 3.0—Truth Vs Fact
1. What are FACTS? What is TRUTH? And what is the difference between the two?
2. List 25 Facts about yourself.
Looking at your list of facts, circle those that qualify as TRUTH.
Of those circled, why are these statements TRUTH—and not just facts?
3. The Truth is always superior to the facts. TRUE or FALSE
4. “Your purpose and assignment, all your awesome gifts and talents, and your personality speak louder than any collection of facts. That is the Truth about you.”
Describe your own PERSONAL TRUTH as much as you can.
How are you are “equipped” to complete your assignment, or purpose? (See Hebrews 13:20-21)
5. “Every statement of fact has a corresponding statement of Truth.”
Refer to your list of facts (Question #2). Underline three that you consider the most formidable (or troublesome).
How were those facts created? (By you, by others, by consequence, etc. Did you have help?)
What is the Truth about those three facts, and how is the Truth SUPERIOR?
6. Which of the follow statements are true:
a. The facts are easy, but the Truth must be found.
b. Facts are created from decision and consequence, while Truth is born of purpose and design.
c. Facts can change, but Truth never changes.
d. Facts often appear to make sense, but the Truth may seem illogical.
e. All the above.
7. “When believers are fact-led, they are not Spirit-led and can be easily misled.”
Look again at your three most formidable facts.
How have these facts tried to take control or direct your life?
How have they tried to identify you?
Have these facts created more facts?
8. We can manage our facts by:
a. Acknowledging them, accepting them, and ignoring them
b. Trying to make sense of them
c. Blaming our facts on someone else
d. Hoping they’ll go away if we ignore them long enough
9. “Try to acknowledge your facts without getting your emotions involved.”
Why is this important? Do you think you can do it?
10. Look again at your three most formidable facts.
Are they changeable or unchangeable?
What limitations have they tried to impose on your life and identity?
Can you accept your unchangeable facts without accepting those limitations? How?
11. “Many of our facts involve other people and the acts they perpetrated against us.”
Have you always been fair to yourself? Explain.
Can you JUDGE THE ACTIONS of those who harmed you WITHOUT CONDEMNING THEM? How?
12. How can you choose Truth over your facts?
BONUS QUESTION: Debbie says acknowledging the facts will destroy you if you don’t let God in it with you. Why do you think this is true, and how can you make sure you get it right?
Truth 4.0—Seeing As God Sees
1. “God knows who you are even before you do.”
God called Gideon a “mighty man of valor.” Who is God talking to when He speaks to you? What would He call you? Can you describe that person?
2. What is Spiritual Law #9?
Write out 1 Corinthians 1:28-29 below.
3. “It’s easy to get life and God mixed up.”
Why is it easy to get life and God mixed up?
Have you done this? When?
What things have you heard other people say when they got God and life mixed up?
4. Which of these statements is true?
a. God will use your facts to make you better.
b. Jesus is Lord and He owns it all—including your facts.
c. You do not have to wait for your facts to improve to begin the inner transformation of spiritual and emotional growth.
d. You don’t have to understand everything!
e. All of the above
5. Did you ever think that God didn’t care about you—at least as much as others? Or perhaps He was indifferent, or harder on you than others, or had something against you? Below are some thought patterns that result from flawed mental habits. Which of these have you previously believed? Circle the ones that apply. Write in any you experienced that are not listed.
a. Nobody likes me. There’s something wrong with me.
b. I can’t be a part of that group because I’m not good enough.
c. God loves others more than He loves me.
d. There’s something about me that’s different. I can’t win.
e. Everyone will abandon me eventually.
f. I’m not worth much.
g. The only thing I’m good for is ______________.
h. I can’t get anyone to love me. It must be my fault.
i. God must be punishing me for something.
j. I’m supposed to be unhappy.
k. All the above
Considering your answers above, find a scripture that speaks to each one. Write them down, and reference them beside each statement above.
As you begin to view your situations with a new perspective (seeing as God sees), can you see it differently now?
Does your perspective line up with the Truth? If not, how can you reconcile your beliefs with the Word of God?
6. “God did not get pulled into Gideon’s situation.”
In this chapter, we listened and watched as God met Gideon at the winepress. This is an excerpt from the chapter: “Gideon argued, but God didn’t respond to any of Gideon’s complaints…He did not say one single word in response to Gideon’s objections. It seemed as though He wasn’t listening at all!”
Have you ever tried to talk to the Lord about something but it seemed He wasn’t listening? Did you think He didn’t care? Explain how you interpreted God’s SILENCE.
How do you interpret it now?
7. “God did not correct any of Gideon’s facts.”
The Lord did not wait for Gideon to get his life straightened out before He called him to lead Israel. If this is God’s way of doing things, what does it mean for you?
8. “God does not judge according to external qualities.”
What qualities do you have that you previously thought might prove a hindrance to your chances for success, happiness, and entering into your purpose—into God’s will for your life?
How can you reconcile those hindrances with God’s promise on your life?
9. Gideon’s questions were IF, WHY, AND WHERE. What questions have you had, and how did God respond to them?
Did you allow your questions to affect your relationship with the Lord? Explain.
10. “Questions about that ask why not faith questions. In this context, why is associated with doubt, now faith.”
How does God respond to doubt?
11. What is Spiritual Law #10?
Write out Hebrews 11:6 below:
12. God is not interested in your past; He’s interested in your ___________________.
BONUS QUESTION: Debbie says you must let go of the questions to move on. Do you think you can do this now? Explain.
Truth 5.0—The Naked Truth
1. Write out 1 Corinthians 11:31-32 below:
2. When we judge our hearts, we first examine our 1) MOTIVE, 2) INTENT, AND 3) DESIRE.
Assign the correct numbers to the definitions below:
___ Provides the initiative (what you mean to accomplish through your actions).
___ Provides the direction. It is the things you want.
___ Provides the initiative. (our reason for performing a given action.
Of these three (Motive, Intent, Desire), which is the most important?
Who have you known that had desires that were dangerous or destructive? What happened?
What desires have you entertained that led you into trouble?
3. What is the difference between genuine DESIRES and TEMPTATION?
4. Define EXCUSES, DENIAL, AND RATIONALIZATION below:
When have you made EXCUSES for something you did/didn’t do? When have you made excuses for the bad behavior of others? (Ex: when they treated you badly or coaxed you to do things you knew you shouldn’t.) Why did you feel the need to make these excuses?
When have you been in DENIAL about something important? Tell what happened.
When you were making the biggest mistake of your life, how did you RATIONALIZE it? (Blame others, explain it away, misinterpret the situation, etc.)
What might have happened if you’d been honest with yourself in each of these situations?
5. Name one thing that got a foothold in your life—something that might have never become a problem if you’d just said NO the first time. Tell what happened.
6. Manipulators use certain tactics to get their way. Circle the ones that apply:
a. threats and intimidation
d. sexual attraction
e. fits of rage
i. anything else that might move their target
j. all of the above
Have you ever done any of these things to get your way? Underline the ones that apply. Write in any that are not on the list.
7. Manipulators rely on relationship to get what they want. TRUE/FALSE
8. Who do you know that you would consider a manipulator or narcissist? Describe them.
How has your relationship been affected by their controlling tendencies?
9. Describe CODEPENDENCY and ENABLER.
Have you ever been a codependent partner—or an enabler? Explain.
Tell about someone you know who has been an enabler in a codependent relationship.
10. Circle all the following statements that are true:
a. Boys and girls are equally susceptible to emotional injury in childhood.
b. Men and women respond to emotional injury in different ways.
c. Characteristics of dysfunction that plague amorous relationships are often evidence of deep emotional scars from childhood.
d. All the above
11. “Those with a heart bondage will attract those who are broken. Male and female, brokenness recognizes brokenness in ways we cannot comprehend.”
When have you observed broken people ATTRACTING broken people? Has it happened to you? Describe what happened—both in your life and in the life of someone you know.
12. “Truth does not demand immediate resolutions.”
Why is important that you do not try to “fix it”?
How can you GET REAL about your experiences and relationships without trying to fix it?
BONUS QUESTION: Who can you tell about your shame? Who can you share your story with? How will it help you to “confess your faults?” (James 5:16)